I would like to discuss my point of view as a woman with children. I feel as a parent, it is my personal obligation to provide for my children regardless of the other parent. I’m not saying this to give absent parents an excuse not to take responsibility as a parent.
There is a root cause to all of this “drama”. That is a topic I would like to address later. My first thoughts are “How could two people that can’t get along share children?”? I’m not going to go to deep into that this conversation. Feel free to read my post “Correcting Relationships Abnormalities in Forming Relationship’s” (linked in below) where I touch more on that subject. Also, I’ve linked an article based on single parenting, in addition to a YouTube video related to this topic.
Betterhealth.vic.gov.au
As an adult when making the decision to have sex, choosing your sexual partner should be carefully thought out. Most do not give much thought to the partners they choose. Sex is being replaced with love. Sex is being used as a feeling instead of an action. More children are being born due to improper sexual practices rather than love.
When you lay down with someone you should consider theses factors at the very least:
- How well you know them
- Their sexuality
- Health status
- Intentions with you
- How they feel about having children
If you learn to have self control, many irresponsible actions will be avoided. It takes two people to have a child. Both partners are equally responsible for deciding to have sex in the first place. Then once you know that you are going to have sex, take the initiative to avoid any unwanted future issues. We are humans we do make mistakes. People often get mistakes confused with flawed characteristics. Character traits or also known as personality traits, aren’t mistakes. These are characterized traits that people possesses as their personal personality. These bad traits usually are hereditary and self taught. People usually follow cultural influence’s.
Think about this. Where did you learn to act the way that you do? Was it your parent’s or caregivers, friends, other family members, society?
Here are some examples of types of negative qualities in people.
Negative Character Flaws:
- arrogance
- deception
- delusion
- dishonesty
- ego
- envy
- greed
- hatred
- immorality
- lying
- selfishness
- unreliability
- violence
12 Of The Worst Negative Personality Traits That Are Truly Nasty
Liveboldandbloom.com
How Did We Get To This Point?
Responsibility is owning one’s actions. With adulthood comes great responsibilities. In USA once you become 18 years of age you are legally, by “American Standard”, able to live on your own. Before you are at legal age, you possess a mind capable of making decisions. Some people make decisions based on repetitiveness, cultural, and peer pressure.
It’s A Mutual Fault
When two people lay down and make children, they should know, love and care for each other. This sounds like the most logical, possible way to create a life. Since the creation of USA, that wasn’t always the case. African Americans were stripped of their identities and forced into profitable breeding. Fast forward, the breeding farms where abolished with the slave trade. African American people were not so much as “freed”, but culturally lost. They were homeless, separated and in a foreign country. Most people had already lost their families during the trade days.
Today we are products of our early American ancestors. Families are portrayed on television as perfect and always 2 parent households. We can see, in reality, that’s rarely the case. In urban cultures there are single mother’s and father’s. Neither parent is more obligated to raise a child, they both are equally responsible. Unfortunately, social media has shown us, baby mama and baby daddy drama is a trending topic.
Rationale
Learn to focus all of your attention on the most important person in the equation, (your child) you wouldn’t have time for anything negative. You should keep busy focusing on what you need to provide for your child(ren). In fact if people spent more time focusing on their children and bettering themselves, they would see better positive outcome’s.
Forbes.com
Compromise
Learning to compromise is key to being a parent. If you have multiple children by multiple partners, that you cannot provide for, consider the factors. At some point you have to decide the adult choice to make. You need to regain focus of what’s important in your life. You possibly may need to see someone professional. There could be an underlying problem that’s embedded into your mental.
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